Who reads me a bit already know that I’m a cat lover – I love all animals, but for 7 years I have been happy, unconscious feline mum. Unaware that you should be worried about your cat. And not let it go outdoors. And you have to scatter all the windows. And look at how an animal created for freedom is kept on a leash … of my fear.
I recently met a friend. It was to be fun, building meetings after years – meanwhile, I greeted a bunch of nerves with a firmly established fear for the simplest things of everyday life; Sex with husband is hardly growing for fear of pregnancy. Every day she shakes about her job. The material matters she judges in a human way, as if God didn’t exist at all, and yet years ago she confessed Jesus as her Savior and she even preach Him to the others!
With human fear I meet every day. And I understand it – I do not share, but I understand; If the unbelievers are living it, I do not ask any questions – because I know that just before them will be the experience of divine guidance, sustenance, blessings. Trust will be their future. But when I see the attitude of fear in people who claim to be believers, I always ask:
– Do you believe in God?
– Sure! – they usually respond without hesitation.
– And do you believe God? – I always hear that yes BUT … And you know what; This what is after „BUT” is the truth about them. And I direct them to this post.
Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? (Matthew 6,25)
Faith in reverse
A man, even a believer, used to approach to fear in a rather indulgent way; It’s natural that I’m afraid / I’m just human / Jesus was afraid too.
Well, that’s who you are in Jesus, is the whole matter. Because if you consider yourself as „only human” or God forbid (literally) „only weak sinner” I’m sorry – you have no idea who you are in Jesus. Actually, you reject everything that He has won for you. In a word – His sacrifice, his victory – this is a full victory – have no meaning in your life, and it is only pseudo-Christian.
It’s like being married for years on a daily basis, thinking all day that your spouse betrays you there with his secretary. Fear of the person who believes himself to be a believer in God is devastating.
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? (Mt 6,26)
What fear makes with you
– Control. Every believer I know and who is guided by fear wants to control everything. With God inclusive
– No humility. Fear is lack of humility!
– A contorted image of God.
– The distorted notion of grace.
– Constant annoyance. And an annoyance is the lack of trust in God.
– Stopping the blessings, limiting the God who wants for your life MORE
– Put yourself first, in center of attention, in center of command.
– Seeking approval in people instead of God.
– Living by double standards = fast frustration; For people> from the outside you play the role of a man of faith and trust, encouraging the others to this same while your life, thinking, is a denial of the power and love of God that you preach.
Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. (Mt 6,27-28)
The fear of God
There will be those who justify their fear, the so-called fear of God. What does it really mean? Let me explain: The fear of God is rather a fear of moving away from God. And in me there is such awe; I just do not want to be in any world, the reality in which He is not – and it is every reality in which ME (or something else) is too much and He is to less. But this fear is not real, paralyzing fear or sadness! I would say the opposite.
If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? (Mt 6,30)
As a believer, you may sell the fear to the others – you may sow it and, as a result, you may sow disbelief. And even if somehow you enter the Kingdom of God, you will not enjoy life in it – there is 100% trust, no worry (and worry is not a lack of problems but the state of mind, attitude to them). There, everything is solved!
If you want to feel fear
In life with God cannot be like the horror you choose – you turn off the light, you make a dark atmosphere, because you want to break up, experience some emotions.
But if you really want to be afraid – and this is a matter of decision – do not expect growth in God and the open heaven blessings – you just stop them. God loves you very much, but if you respond with fear to His offer, He will find someone else. If Mary, the mother of Jesus, had responded with fear to God, „No, I cannot do that!” – God would have found someone else because the Savior had to come into the world. But what would have happened to us if Jesus had withdrawn due to fear? Hm.
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. (2 Timothy 1,7)
The story of my fear
I hadn’t be brave for all the time. But the time came when I put everything on one card – with total confidence.
Paradoxically, trusting and surmounting fear of God I did not learn sitting in a warm home corner, but in a place where I could count on Him and His guidance only – in most cases these were „the eleventh hour” situations.
Let us not be seduced: each of us, Christians, would like to be a titan of trust, of faith and of total freedom, without fear – but who wants to go through really difficult situations? Exactly. But in them that fear is removed and trust is formed. But first you have to find out what God is like, who is to guide you through these situations and who you are in Him.
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. (Mt 6,31-32)
An outgoing cat
My cats are outgoing – because their destiny is freedom. Just like mine. If some disgraced cat lover accuses me of recklessness, I say: In my house, everyone including cats is moving in the Kingdom of God, we are not guided by fear.
Along with the coming years came many difficult experiences and as many really wonderful, completely not my solutions. They were enough for me. There came a moment when I stopped speaking the words of fear, of doubt, instead I began to already-thank. This is the way I call this moment when there is a Gordian knot problem and there is no good solution at all. It is enough for me to know a few things about my God: He loves me, He wants my good, and His good is always good and fair. And I realize that once again, already say “thanks”. And I praise Him. And I bless this whole situation. And I wait and think to myself: I can not wait to see what my dad came up with this time: -)
This is not a slander of reality, no positive mantra, patting on the shoulder with the words „must be good”. It does not have to. But I know He wants: -)
But seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all things shall be added unto you. (Mt 6:33)
I am no longer afraid – I know who loves me. I just sit and smell: -) And after the bible:
“Here now is the man who did not make God his stronghold
but trusted in his great wealth and grew strong by destroying others!” But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God;
I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever” (Psalms 52, 7-8)
My god – fear
Why do you need faith, God, if you are to be afraid? That’s what I thought about this meeting, which I wrote about in the beginning. Then a reflection came to me, looking at >God’s man< So what faith and all these treatments, sacrifice for? This walking to church every week, in good or bad weather, denying so many things … in the name of what if Fear is first?
Courage, or the opposite of fear, is not an addition to the Christian’s life – but its foundation. Courage is showing your faith (and „without faith you can not please God”) is a hundred percent YES on His call. Courage frees, gives peace, joy, sense of being in the right place, sense of purpose. You don’t know what circumstances you will have to face as a man of God – it may be real persecutions, like my brothers and sisters in Pakistan, may face strangulation, maybe change of direction of life, place of residence, temporary unemployment, change of church; Your courage or it’s lack will decide about your spiritual fate.
How to get rid of fear?
I would suggest only one thing: ask God to reveal His love to you and show you who you are for Him and what He thinks about you- to show you in His heart.
This truth will stir you.
Make the decision that you no longer want to breathe through a foil-sized bag with a pin-hole. And say it aloud:
I believe so I’m not afraid
Supposedly the expression Do not be afraid appears in the Bible 365 times – it’s a promise for every day of the year.
This decision can be made every morning: Today I say NO to fear because I have a great Father who loves me and everything He does is good. Even if I bad things encounter me I give them to God – He knows what to do with them. And I’m not afraid. I just praise and thank you, because my affairs are already resolved in the Kingdom of my Father. Amen.
Bless you all!
Have you ever experienced fear as a believer? How did you break it and how do you see the difference?
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me (Psalm 23, 1-4)